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Legal spat surfaces between Thomas Kinkade’s wife, girlfriend

Legal spat surfaces between Thomas Kinkade’s wife, girlfriend.

Some more of “the truth…”

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On Toxic People and Narcissists in Ministry

The reblogged articles below provide for the reader a real glimpse into a “ministry” of which I was a part for many years…at a heavy price.

Things “come out in the wash” as they say and I am gratified that my former co-employee and her family are blowing the lid on the real state of affairs at VCY America…and have left this mechanism of fear and hate mongering so prevalent in fundamentalism today.

Demagogues, megalomaniacs, psychopaths and narcissists can even come dressed in a three piece polyester suit with a “message from God.”

I recently read an article on (http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052970203986604577255750107057014.html) describing the problems on Wall Street stemming from clinical psychopathic behavior. The profile of a psychopath shocked me:

The twenty traits assessed by the PCL-R score are:

  • glib and superficial charm
  • grandiose (exaggeratedly high) estimation of self
  • need for stimulation
  • pathological lying
  • cunning and manipulativeness
  • lack of remorse or guilt
  • shallow affect (superficial emotional responsiveness)
  • callousness and lack of empathy
  • parasitic lifestyle
  • poor behavioral controls
  • sexual promiscuity
  • early behavior problems
  • lack of realistic long-term goals
  • impulsivity
  • irresponsibility
  • failure to accept responsibility for own actions
  • many short-term marital relationships
  • juvenile delinquency
  • revocation of conditional release
  • criminal versatility
You may know a few of these folks….and certainly the behavior described by the articles below comes very close to hitting all of the items on this check list. Psychopathic behaviors seems to be prevalent not only on Wall Street but in positions of power within even “christian” ministries.

Part 1

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For some reason I will never fully understand, I have had more experience with toxic people than most. Let me explain what I mean by “toxic.” We all have our sinful traits that we have to wrestle with, seek forgiveness for and continually try to eliminate in our lives. I am not referring to normal humans who give in to the flesh for a time, seek forgiveness and restoration with those they have hurt and stop their sinful conduct. By toxic people, I refer to those who are not wrestling at all against their sin.

For reasons known only to them, they are under the full sway of their sinful and harmful impulses towards others. These are angry, abusive and unhappy people who feel compelled to take out their anger and unhappiness on those around them.

Toxic people are defined and ruled by their Luciferian pride. They will never humble…

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As promised, this is the third and final post on Dealing with Toxic People. It has taken me a while to get this done. Why? Because I personally am dealing with some toxic individuals, and at times of discouragement, I sometimes feel I don’t have any counsel for anybody. But I know that as believers in Christ, we do have general guidelines in Scripture for these situations.

Additionally, listening to godly people who are living in and dealing with people like this on a daily basis is a great help. I talked with one of my friends who daily lives the struggle with a toxic husband. As an older Christian woman, her counsel is balanced and always worth listening to. Unlike some who promote a kind of slavish acceptance and submission to lies and venom as they come out of the mouth of a toxic individual, my friend understands that…

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This isn’t intended to be a Bible study or a comprehensive article on dealing with those people in our lives who seem to be at war with the world. This post is a follow-up to my original post last year on the necessity of drawing boundaries with people who seem to delight in tormenting others, creating chaos and refusing to reconcile.

Due to the length of what I want to say, I am going to have to continue this into a Part 3 that will deal with how to properly deal with these people when you are pulled into their orbit. This portion is an overview of toxic individuals in the home and ministry.

If it’s a sad thing to witness in the world at large, it is even more tragic and horrifying to see this kind of conduct among those who claim to be Christians. I explained in the…

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Truly an article written based on personal experience…

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The most read Hope Blog posts in the last four years have been the the series addressing toxic people and how to deal with those in your life who are unrepentant human destruction machines. These posts have received tens of thousands of hits over the last few years as those searching have come across the articles.

The earlier three posts addressed the issue of toxic friends and family, but this post will briefly cover the devastation created by such individuals in ministry leadership. The spiritual and emotional damage done by these narcissists cannot be overstated.

There is much writing on this subject available, and even a cursory glance at the sheer number of articles written on the subject is an indication of how serious the problem is. Toxic spiritual leaders destroy faith and lives, simply put. Even more tragically, they often do it with impunity, behind the scenes, where the…

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